Not anymore
After a while, Iris had lost patience. She donated and gave till she ran out of money. Now she did all she could to help him. In her mind, she felt like she was sacrificing too much for too little reward. Despite her best efforts, she failed miserably in her image of a loving wife.
It was too much for her to bear. In her fury, she eventually acknowledged that she could no longer bear it. She made a concerted effort to keep her love and devotion flowing for as long as possible. This time, she had to step up and take charge.