Coming to Terms With the Death of a Close Friend or Member of the Family Those who are bereft after the death of a loved one or a close friend frequently experience excruciating pain, even if the person who passed away did not have a death that was particularly tragic. This is true no matter what circumstances surrounded the passing of the person who was loved and cared for by many. Even if you have known the person who has passed away for a very long time or if their passing was sudden and shocking, death can still leave you with a lot of unanswered questions. This is true regardless of the circumstances surrounding the passing of the loved one. It makes no difference what caused the death of the person being discussed; this is always the case. This is the case regardless of the conditions under which the individual passed away.